Hi there, I’m your big bro kanetsu, and today I want to give you some tips on how you can improve your life, or how you can start new habits, or maybe you want to change things up..
I don’t really want to target mental health here, because I don’t feel qualified to talk about it, if you think that you can’t handle yourself anymore you should ask for help that’s close to you, but I get it. If you’re stubborn like me, maybe this can help you, even if I had my share of problems this is more of broad generic content,
I’m going to talk about things that work for me and if you want to try some of the stuff I suggest you I do strongly recommend you to do your own research on the topics of your interest. And when I say to do your own research is because I want you to learn to find your own answers. This might be the first tip. Don’t be afraid to ask and don’t be afraid to look for answers.
You can search online, ask on social media. But don’t hang up on your first result, try to check that your answer is legit. You have to be like a detective, hear the people talking good things about it, and listen to the ones against it too. Always look at both perspectives. Basically keep your mind open to all possibilities, even the ones you don’t like, even if you think that that isn’t what you are, but maybe it’s true and if that little truth can lead you to a better place, it might be something worth fighting for.
Changes are hard to make, especially if you are older but honestly, let’s drop the old age bullshit. That’s a nice mind trap that is going to hold you down, the only question you have to ask yourself is, am I too old to be happy? And if you think about it its a very stupid question to ask. I was talking about changing, and I’m not going to lie here, I’m not the guy that sugar coats the truth by telling you that everything is going to be ok, changing is hard, it’s going to take time, you can’t pretend to wake up a new person tomorrow, this is going to be your new life from today since the day you’ll die.
Embrace the change, its a positive thing you are going to do for yourself. And I want to be clear here, you do this only for you, not because someone has told you so, only for you. Look at me in the eyes and repeat out loud: I do this for myself alone, because I love myself and I want a better life One of the first things I did a couple of years ago was changing my diet. I wanted to lose some weight because I felt insecure about how I looked, and even if losing weight is not on your list, diet is not just for weight loss. Some foods can impact your brain too, there isn’t much of a consensus out there, but cutting on sugars can be a very good choice.
I tried keto and fasting, and that changed everything. Those might not work for you, but try to cut on sugars, drink only water and try to eat only when the sun is out. The trick with diet is to find the one that you can stick to and it doesn’t feel like a burden. After six months of diet I was ready to incorporate a workout routine. The main reasons to workout are, there is only one, is to feel better.
You don’t need to go crazy and kill yourself at every session, at the beginning it’s ok, you only need to start to move your body. You can run, lift heavy, HIIT, and so on. There are plenty of choices, I like to follow along with youtube workouts, all you have to do is just copy them! Get off porn. It might sound stupid, but porn has a lot of negative consequences on our minds. It can make it hard for you to make new connections with people, it can impede your relationship with your partner. It can lead to body shaming, not only on your partners but even on yourself, just like it can lead to sexual shame. This can affect both straight, gay, and men and women alike.
Accepting that I like men was one of the things that were holding me back all this time and porn wasn’t helping me, it just made everything worse. Practice self-love, talk to you in a nice way. I like to read these ten quotes as soon as I wake up. You are your biggest supporter, treat yourself when needed. Taking care of your body is part of this too, looking at yourself in the mirror with nice hair or makeup can make your mood way better! Take a look at your childhood, are your parents as good as you’ve thought? Well, if they didn’t do a good job in raising you and you feel unlovable, broken, or have generally low self-esteem, you can reparent yourself, but it’s better if you do this with a therapist because it can really hurt. But it is doable even on your own.
Read books, there are a lot of good books out there, I’m going to leave some of my favorites in the description, but remember that you don’t have to agree with everything that is said in the books or in this video or other material, you take what you need for you and maybe you will find your answers in places where you weren’t even looking for Keep on trying to improve yourself, just a little bit at a time, but try to do it every day.
Listen to other people’s stories, you can be more motivated to do something if you can hear that someone like you has reached something you want too. Everyones different, but every one that is suffering is the same, there is no he got it worse or I don’t need help because overall I was lucky. If you’re in pain, even for what you think is a little thing, there’s no shame in suffering from it and wanting to heal! Practice kindness, playing the tough guy is cool, I get it, but being the tough kind person is even better. Say thanks to the ones that help you, and try to help as much as you can.
I think that this is enough for now, feel free to ask me anything, I will try to answer the best I can, just remember that I might answer after a while. Yeah, I forgot to talk about social media. I don’t think you need to avoid it, but choose carefully the people you follow and I suggest you disable all push notifications, especially if you make content, and don’t rush to look at your phone as soon as you wake up, eat breakfast and then look at the phone. I hope that this video might help you in your journey, leave a like if so and subscribe if you like me. Thank you so much for watching and remember that I’m proud of you and I believe in you and I’ll see you in the next sentence!!